The Poisoned Well

Who You Avoid Is Key

If Interdependence is our nature, why doesn’t it come more ‘naturally’ to us?
The answer lies in the ‘socialization’ process which if it is complete and successful, makes us ‘unfit’ for interdependence. Hence the subtitle ‘Who You Avoid Is Key’. The sad reality is that probably only a fraction of a percent of people living in western culture are suited for interdependence.
The rest are to be avoided. Sad, but it’s the conclusion I have reached after many attempts at achieving healthy interdependent relationships.
If you are more interested in what you can ‘get’ than what you can ‘give’, you aren’t ready for interdependence.